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Why??? Why me?? After all, I see
it everywhere and all the time. People all around the world give it to
one another, just not to me. Why it is so hard to have one small
request- LOVE
為什麼？？為什麼是我？ 我真的就是看到了啊! 它是這樣無處不在，任何時間、任何地點。 這世界上到處都有人可以把自己交給了另外一個人，但怎麼就不是我。為什麼 ”愛” 這樣一個小小的請求竟有這麼的難。 My
miserable search for true love began 4 years ago when I started
searching for true love in every possible way, such as on-line, friends,
and even the kind that I hated the most; blind dates.
One day, dear audience, my good friend set me up on a blind date.
When he called me, I took a deep breath and
answered:
天，我的好朋友幫我安排相親。當他打電話給我，我深吸了一口氣，回答說： “I am very tall
and handsome”, yes, “honest”, yes “and I have my own apartment
with a swimming pool”. Yes
The same evening we arranged to
meet in a coffee shop. When I arrived I suddenly heard: “Lita” “yes”???
NO!!! So he isn't big, let's say that at the age of five he stopped
growing. But
that's OK, no body's perfect. During our date he talked
only about the apartment, the swimming pool and his fabulous room. I
responded: do you live with a roommate? He answered: 2 roommates,
genetic roommates, Mommy and daddy. “Oh no” Please, don't get me wrong
I don't have a problem with someone that lives with his parents
but I realized that he wasn't being honest with me – so I told him
goodbye- forever. I found myself sad and
hopeless once again What else could I do to find
my better half? Was it my destiny to stay
lost and single forever? At my lowest point I knew
that I had 2 options, to give up on true love or to
keep going until I found it. I chose the second option but knew that
from then on, it had to be different. I needed to create a new way to
find love… I
started researching how to find true love by
reading books, going to counseling, and asking my married friends for
suggestions. With all the information I
collected, I created my own method: the triple F – Fantasy, Fact, and
Focus. My
first step was to combine the1st and 2nd f
and called it: “The Fantasy and
Fact list”. This list has all the criteria, which I wanted to have in my
true love. First I
began with the
fantasy column and wrote down a long list of criteria
that I really fantasized to find in this person. Let me share 3 items from
the fantasy column: height: taller than 175cm, eyes: green, education:
master's degree and above. Next, I moved to
the fact column which included the same criteria
but this time, I changed it to the minimum requirements, in a person
that still, would be acceptable for me. For Example: In my
fantasy list I asked for someone who is taller than 175cm, in the fact
list I added that taller than 165cm is fine, Fantasy, education:
master's degree and above, Fact: under graduate is ok, , Fantasy: green
eyes, Fact- 2 eyes After I
had the whole list, 2 things were clear: what are the things that I
really want and where are my limits. With
this completed, I could move on to the 3rd F:
Focus. I needed to stay focused on
the fact and fantasy list so that when the right opportunity appeared I
would recognize it and be ready for it. I went
to my friends and asked them to find gentlemen who fit my list.
I believed that once I found
my true love, I'd come close to him, look deep into his eyes, and the
first thing that I would tell him is:” what took you so long!?!?”
After
50 dinners75 lunches and 100 coffees- in one month, I finally found my
true love- halleluiah!! He has
green eyes; he is 185cm, with a master's degree! In fact, He has
everything that I asked for in my fantasy list. I was
extremely thankful, excited and proud of myself.
I felt was like the sun shining on me and whispering that it's my time
to shine. Everyone has a fantasy, what
is yours? What do you really want for yourself? Do you want to get a better
job? Do you want to meet your soul mate? Today I am giving you a
method to turn your fantasy into a reality by using the triple F you can
achieve anything you want and make your dreams become
WOW. Contest master
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